When I got married almost nineteen years ago...being a mother was just another word in the vocabulary of a married life. I thought it would come naturally and everything will fall into place nicely. My life would be complete after I got hitched and have children. People around told me that being a mum is a big responsibility. It's not like adopting a pet but I was ignorant and unprepared for what was actually to come when you decide to have children.I am blessed with three lovely children. One smart boy and two beautiful girls. The motherly instinct comes naturally, no doubt. When they were babies..especially with the firstborn everything was trial and error. Should I give breastmilk or should I bottle feed him. I bought a dozen books on babies as guidance. Everything about the baby was so adorable and cute. Every first in the life of the baby were carefully documented... first step..first word..."Ma Ma" (awwww so cute...I cried), first teeth, first smile!!!! With it all came the tribulations of having sleepless nights of caring for a sick baby (colic, fever, tummy ache).
I had like a million photographs of my babies...and slowly they grow....from babies to toddlers to pre-schoolers to primary students. The responsibilities of a mother keep on growing as the kids grow. You are responsible to teach them good manners, teach them right from wrong, show them the correct way to speak, eat and act...you have to punish them to show that you mean business...punishment is a lesson for them to be responsible for their own behaviour, though it will never fail to break your heart everytime you have to "ground" them.
I believe in " Sometimes you have to be cruel in order to be nice"...and I believe in " Teach them how to fish instead of just giving them the fish". When you sent your child to start primary school you should have taught him/her how to mix with the society. We as mothers also have the responsibility to ensure that the child adhere to the discipline at home so he/she will have no problem to discipline him/herself at school. I also have to make sure that my child knows the responsibilities as a student...to study hard and do his homework, to work harmoniously with the other students, respect the teachers etc.
My kids are growing into teenagers now. The responsibilities get bigger and bigger. Everybody knows that teenagers have raging hormones...it's the most difficult part of any mother's life. This is the time you analyse yourself ...many times I sit down to ponder how I fare as a mother based on my teenagers' behaviour and their achievement. How do I fare? From the corner of my eyes and with the deepest concern in my heart I watch and I analyze how they behave with their parents, with their siblings, with the society and on how they see the world...this is the time you get to see what you have taught them since the day they were born to this moment all reflected in their attitude and what they become as a person. This is the moment of truth ... but there will be no denying that every child is an individual, a human being with his/her own unique characteristics. While there will be a child who is hardworking and humble, another would be a loud talker and robust. Another child may be the quiet type, with a golden heart but may be very lazy and stubborn. Teenagers need to be handle with care, loads of unconditional love but a very very firm hand.There are a lot of things I learn from being a mother...it makes me be a better person. Children is a reflection of what their parents are. So true...After being a mother to three children for eighteen years I know I have learnt a lot from them. When you see a bad tempered son or daughter you will realise that it is a reflection of either one of you as parents. It is a humbling experience.....you can see yourself in all of your children. I can attest to that...though every one of my three children have their own personalities...I can see myself in all three of them occasionally.
How do I fare as mother? Oh dear....I know I have done a lot of mistakes in my journey as a mother. I was never a perfect mother, how could I be since I am only human. I try not to be "in their face" too much and not to dictate any child's life. I have promised myself to be an honest, educated mother to my children who will always be there for them as long as I live. I have always tried to answer all the questions they asked as they were growing up..but I know not all their questions were answered correctly. These 18 years of being a mother is really, really tough and colourful but at the end of the day I can go to sleep with a smile on my face as being a mother is the most wonderful and fulfilling experience of my life...ever.
To my three children ... mama loves you all equally so much and you all have
brought so many laughter in my life. Thank you for being there for me always. I hope I have taught you well. Take the positives and leave all the negatives behind. All three of you have made me proud to be your mother. Hugs and kisses always forever.
My kids are growing into teenagers now. The responsibilities get bigger and bigger. Everybody knows that teenagers have raging hormones...it's the most difficult part of any mother's life. This is the time you analyse yourself ...many times I sit down to ponder how I fare as a mother based on my teenagers' behaviour and their achievement. How do I fare? From the corner of my eyes and with the deepest concern in my heart I watch and I analyze how they behave with their parents, with their siblings, with the society and on how they see the world...this is the time you get to see what you have taught them since the day they were born to this moment all reflected in their attitude and what they become as a person. This is the moment of truth ... but there will be no denying that every child is an individual, a human being with his/her own unique characteristics. While there will be a child who is hardworking and humble, another would be a loud talker and robust. Another child may be the quiet type, with a golden heart but may be very lazy and stubborn. Teenagers need to be handle with care, loads of unconditional love but a very very firm hand.There are a lot of things I learn from being a mother...it makes me be a better person. Children is a reflection of what their parents are. So true...After being a mother to three children for eighteen years I know I have learnt a lot from them. When you see a bad tempered son or daughter you will realise that it is a reflection of either one of you as parents. It is a humbling experience.....you can see yourself in all of your children. I can attest to that...though every one of my three children have their own personalities...I can see myself in all three of them occasionally.
How do I fare as mother? Oh dear....I know I have done a lot of mistakes in my journey as a mother. I was never a perfect mother, how could I be since I am only human. I try not to be "in their face" too much and not to dictate any child's life. I have promised myself to be an honest, educated mother to my children who will always be there for them as long as I live. I have always tried to answer all the questions they asked as they were growing up..but I know not all their questions were answered correctly. These 18 years of being a mother is really, really tough and colourful but at the end of the day I can go to sleep with a smile on my face as being a mother is the most wonderful and fulfilling experience of my life...ever.
To my three children ... mama loves you all equally so much and you all have
brought so many laughter in my life. Thank you for being there for me always. I hope I have taught you well. Take the positives and leave all the negatives behind. All three of you have made me proud to be your mother. Hugs and kisses always forever. After all is said and done...Syafiq, Jasmine and Alia...pandai-pandailah bawa diri...your journey is still long in front of you... the road will be winding and may be difficult....all the best and good luck...Mama wish all of you the best always. Mama sentiasa doakan yang terbaik untuk anak-anak Mama dunia akhirat! Amin...!
To all mothers out there..."HAPPY MOTHERS' DAY" and let us strive to be a better mother to our kids.
